Dear Gen, Pope
and Popi, Volunteers and members of other branches in the
Focolare movement. Welcome to the alternative Focolare
website. This is the place on our website for people who are
part of the Focolare or Gen movement.
If you come across this website while you
are a member of the Focolare, I can understand if you feel
hurt, surprised, shocked or even angry. "Who is this person,
writing about Focolare and why?", you might ask.
I have been a Gen for many years, later a
Volunteer and member of a national Coordinating Council of
the movement. After 20 years I have started to ask questions
about the way things are done in the movement. Even after
insisting for a long time, my questions were not answered. I
was supposed to trust in the Love of God and the voice of
Jesus in our midst. I have given may years of my life to the
movement, many thousands of dollars, I even married the
person that was meant for me according to my Gen-assistant.
I called the pope and popi my brothers and sisters, and yet
sadly we have grown apart.
Now I could have started a new life and
forget about this period in the movement. It would have been
the easy way. many former members do like this. Why not me?
I don't have a grudge against the movement. I do not hate,
nor feel bitter. I am aware of and grateful for the good
things that have happened. I am aware that I was part of
I can still
remember the meetings in Rocca di Papa, Frascati, Loppiano,
Castel Gandolfo. I feel my heart beating while listening to
Gen Rosso and Gen Verde. Nothing is forgotten, and still I
have decided to take my life a step further.
So why this website?
Once I met the
late Mother Theresa of Calcutta. When I told her proudly
that I was a gen, she looked at me carefully and said to
me:"There is more to life than Focolare". At that time I was
astonished. In my mind, there was nothing more important
than Focolare. Now I understand her words.
I am not reaching
out anymore for the leaders of the movement, not to Chiara,
Oreste, Sylvana, Gys, Pepuccio, Opus, Vale or any of the
other leaders that I have met so often in Rome. It is clear
to me now that they are beyond my scope. But I like to
address the hard working focolarini, volunteers and gen who
are in the countries where focolare is working. I like to
start a conversation with anybody who still has a little bit
of their own conscience and free will left, in spite of
years of exposure to collegamenti that have encouraged you
to give up your own thoughts, desires, feelings for the love
I know that it can
be hard for you to read this website. It seems to go against
everything you believe in. It seems to attack your most
precious Ideal. But please believe me, this is not the case.
I must admit that I had years in my life that I felt bitter
towards the focolarino who has manipulated my life, but
those feelings are gone. There has been a time when I worked
on this website out of negative feelings, but also those
days have passed.
During the years
of this website I have encountered many friendly people in
the same situation. They made me see that this website has
another purpose. I do not mean to attack the Ideal, nor
encourage people to leave the movement.
My first goal, and that of the people who
work with me on this website, is to make it more clear that
Focolare can be a good and positive force, but it
runs the risk of taking over people's lives and conscience.
Not at the beginning but after some years, you begin to
believe that the Ideal it worth dying for and that this goal
is so great that any means are justified to reach it. You
start to permit suffering in your own life, and next you
also accept some suffering in other people's lives if it is
for this sanctification of the person or the good of the
cause. I was told that the voice of Jesus in the midst is
more important than my own conscience because the latter
might be flawed by sin and human desire. After some time I
lost the ability to make my own decisions; I only did what
Jesus in our midst said was right. I stopped to grow as a
person and became a child, a popa... For this I was rewarded
by the other members of the focolare. I was encouraged to go
on like this, la popa piu graziata della scuola Gen, I was
the Gen who had received God's grace in a special way.
Now, in this website I like to say. I am
happy for the good things the focolare has done, but I warn
the movement not to take over other people's conscience. Let
the members free in what they do or believe. Accept some
disagreement. The world will not be less ONE if there is
more freedom. God is a God who lets His children be free.
My second goal is to give a forum, a
platform for people who, just like me find themselves in a
vacuum after leaving the movement. All our friends outside
the focolare are gone, we have abandoned our families for
the love of God and the Focolare and we stand alone. Our
Focolare friends stopped seeing us because they are just too
busy spreading the Ideal and they are disappointed with very
member who leaves the movement. They believe we have
rejected God's grace for us. So we are on our own, and I
like to give the opportunity to meet and talk to other
people in the same situation. The main instrument for this
is the guest book. It is a great success and it has had over
Finally, I also
like to show that people have been able to live very good
and meaningful lives after they have left Focolare. And I
like to help you in making this step, if you feel that it is
your time too.
Please be not
offended by this initiative. I am always open to talk or
write with any member of the movement. Thank you for your
(This is a alias to protect myself, my friends and family)